I’ve had a few clients in the past talk about how they’re unsure how to approach requesting a tarot reading. It's understandable, if you've never been through to process before it can seem a little daunting. The idea of forming a question or knowing what to ask often hold people back from seeking guidance. Here I’ll offer some advice if you’re thinking of having a reading for yourself, going through what the tarot can help you with and how to get the best out of your reading, because that’s what everyone wants!
If you know what you want to know about, but not sure how to get that question phrased just right, remember the tarot reader is there to help you. A good reader will support you and work with you to form a question to ensure you get the answers you need. It’s important to be open and honest, as you can’t get an answer to a question you don’t ask! That’s not to say you have to give a full background to your situation, but being as specific as possible really helps if you have specific needs. Otherwise, opt for an open reading and see what energies are standing out around you at the moment.
There are different sizes of spreads, if you would like something direct and succinct, a 3-4 card spread works well. If you’d like a more broad overview of an area of life or something you’re currently experiencing, a larger spread such as the Celtic Cross would work better for you. This is a wide web of influences and energies.
What can I ask the tarot?
Onto the question itself:
These prefixes don’t work so well with tarot. They almost demand a YES/NO answer and almost move responsibility for your choices away from you and onto the cards or the reader. The tarot is there to guide and inform you on your path and give you insight into your own life and inner self, you are responsible for your decisions but the tarot can give you a heads up on how to get the best out of things.
What do I need to know about…?
How can I best….?
What do I need to focus on in order to…?
What is holding me back from…?
These focus on you and how you can move forward. A question like this focuses on the positive and getting the best from a situation. We all want to have the most positive outcome possible! Keep that in mind and the tarot will assist.
Questions asking the feelings or intentions of a third person is something I personally don’t read. This goes against my code of ethics and I wholeheartedly abide by this rule. If you’d like to know how someone feels, ask them. If they are acting a certain way, let them get on with it and focus on yourself!
Asking “does X love me/will they ask me to marry them?” isn’t the type of question I feel comfortable answering, I can’t tell you how someone else feels, but let’s try “how can I best improve my relationship with X?” or “what do I need to know about my relationship with X?”. This gives you the ability of action, insight and control.
If you’re still not sure how to form your question, that’s what I’m here for! Drop me an email or a direct message and we can discuss your needs!